This may be the most important thing you can do

Her needs, for example if she wants to be alone for a while

Her choice for physical or sexual contact

To her to find out what she feels would help

With her about how you are feeling. This maybe anger, hurt, sadness, or confusion. Recognise whether you need help coping with this. Remember it is not your friend/relative who is responsible for your feelings

Rape and/or sexual abuse can take a long time to learn to cope with

Something that might help you understand